Just a few days ago we hit our two month mark of being married! Marriage isn’t anything that anyone can prepare you for. Our pre-marital counselor was wise in saying, “The only thing that can prepare you for marriage, is marriage.”
Everyone wants to know how the transition has gone for us. How is it being married? How is it sharing a room? How is it having sex!? How is it (fill in the blank)? To be honest it’s good. I know everyone thinks we are supposed to be on this honeymoon love phase of marriage but I want the honeymoon phase of our marriage to last forever. I know we will have out ups and our downs but I want to always be able to look at my husband and smile from the inside out.
If anything marriage has taught me not to expect so much from myself. Time was our biggest issue before marriage and is still one of our biggest issues now. Even today I find that on my first day off in a week I am zooming around, cleaning, cooking, running errands, doing laundry and catching up on paperwork. There are simply not enough hours in the day. Some how at the end of the day, no matter how early I wakeup, I can’t get it all done. I have put the expectation of perfection on myself. Does my husband expect me to work two jobs, commute an hour there and an hour back and still maintain a perfect home?…. NO I do. Don’t get me wrong he appreciates what I do around the house but he is no way pressures me to have it all together. I do that all on my own.
It made me think. How many woman do that same thing to themselves? How many woman think they are wonder woman? How many mothers are portraying that in order to be a good wife you must have it all together? I am now trying to get these thoughts out of my head. I will do the best with the hours I have to work with, but I am fighting the urge for perfection. God doesn’t call us to perfection so why do we expect it in ourselves?
